Family rules and rituals

Family rituals say, 'This is who we are and what we value'. Family rituals are an essential part of our lives and can provide many benefits for children and adults alike. 

What Are Family Rituals and Why Are They Important?

Family rituals are activities that families do together regularly. They are important because they bring the family closer together and help strengthen their ties. Every family is different, and the rituals you create should reflect your values and traditions. In fact, some rituals might be transferred from generation to generation. 

Rituals can be anything from a weekly movie night to a vacation. They can also be religious, such as celebrating Diwali, Holi, Eid, etc. The main aim of these activities is to bring the family together and build connection and communication. 

Family rituals are important because:

1. They give family members a sense of security, identity and belonging. 

2. Rituals can provide comfort to children in unfamiliar circumstances. For example, if a bedtime story is your child's ritual before bed, it comforts them when they are in an unknown place. 

3. Rituals can strengthen family values.

4. Rituals help children feel that the world is a safe and predictable place. 

Fun Tips & Ideas for Family Rituals

First and foremost, keep them fun! Depending on the age range of your family, there are many ways to make rituals fun. Here are some ideas for you to consider:

• Have a weekly Family Fun Night: Enjoy a family fun night where everyone can pick something special, like a movie, outdoor activity or game night.

• Go out for an ice cream sundae once a month and have everyone pick their unique topping.

• Include loving words in your daily routine, like saying I love you before school.   

• Have everyone come together over breakfast every Sunday morning with something unique to discuss and share before starting the day's activities.

• Age-Appropriate Family Rituals

When Do Family Rituals Need to Change?

Family rituals need to evolve as your family dynamics change. As children grow, their needs and interests will also change, so you need to consider that when deciding on activities that can become rituals within your family. For example, stories at bedtime might be replaced by a set of questions or a meaningful conversation about the day's events.

Family dinners with prayers, board games and movie nights can remain consistent from generation to generation. The difference is in the details:

• What you cook for dinner.

• What board game do you choose?

• Which movies everyone agrees to watch. 

Family rituals are a powerful and dynamic way to promote change, connection, and growth in your family. Being intentional and creative with your rituals can inspire more meaningful relationships and be a source of comfort and belonging for everyone in the family. Forging meaningful family rituals can be fun and therapeutic and ultimately help to build strong relationships between all involved.